I truly believe that God doesn't give us more than we can handle. He pushes us to test us, and He knows how strong we are, so He pushes us right up to our limit or even a little further in order to strengthen us.
With that said, the last 12 months have been very difficult and exhausting. I know God has a plan, but I just don't understand, and I am getting so tired. I know! I know! I should not analyze and try to figure out His plan. I should just follow it. However, it is so hard. Just today, yet another thing happened. My mother fell and broke both bones at the ankle in her right leg. I hate to see her in pain, and we have to figure out how this will play out since she is Granny's caregiver. It will get interesting this week.
I recently saw the following: "When you are down to nothing, God is up to something."
I am sure He is, but I have to stay in prayer for patience b/c I want Him to just get me there already. :-) He has gotten me down to the lowest place I've ever been, so I know great things must be to come. However, I also know that things could get a lot worse. I just pray they don't.
I also saw this one: "When everything seems like it is falling a part, that's when God is putting things together just the way He wants it." I believe this. I have to be patient and do as He wants in His time. I am sure this all has something to do with my lack of patience. :-) Or . . . He is trying to get me back on track and onto the path He wants me to follow rather than the one I have been making the decisions about the last 20 years.
Finally, I saw this one: "When God puts you through trials, He breaks you down, but He always puts you back together stronger than before." I truly believe this one too. He needs me to give it all to Him, quit doing things my way and wanting to be in charge of everything, and allow Him to lead me. I know God has a great future ahead of me.
What are your thoughts about tests from God? The quotes I shared?
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Sunday, February 10, 2013
Saturday, January 26, 2013
Caring for the Elderly
Continuing to watch my mother care for my grandmother has been an eye-opening experience.
Today, like most Saturdays lately, Mom and I loaded Granny into the car to run errands, have lunch, and go to the store (i.e. Walmart). This not only gets Granny out of the house, but it allows Mom to get out and about with other people. You would think it would be a nice break, but the whole process of taking Granny anywhere is quite exhausting.
Each time we go to the store, Granny reminds me of a toddler shopping with his/her parents--looking at everything on the shelves, pointing to things she wants, asking over and over for items until she gets them or you leave, grabbing items from shelves when we roll her to close, and more. The worst is going down the bread aisle and passing all the Little Debbie sweets. She points and grabs all kinds of different sweets. She loves Donut Sticks, little donuts, and Honey Buns. The second worst is waiting in the check-out lane. She looks at all the candy, grabbing a few, and the various impulse items lining the waiting area.
Today, she was all about getting three different sizes of storage bags, Pop Tarts, lipstick, and a small bag. To you, this may not seem like a big deal, but Mom does everything at the house, so she knows what is needed and what isn't. Granny pretty much sits in her chair or in bed. Other than the puzzle in the daily paper, she doesn't do anything. Not that we haven't tried! I just find it funny what she insists on getting and how childlike she is going about it.
Besides this, she is all about the sweets. If at all possible, she would eat sweets all day long. She eats far more syrup on her waffles or pancakes than a family of 6 could eat in one sitting. She eats Donut Sticks, snack cakes, candy, and anything else sweet that you could imagine, and that is all she wants. Poor, Mom. She has to fight the sweets all day and make sure Granny eats all the food groups and gets enough protein. It is quite a fight. Just like when parents try to get their young children to eat appropriately.
I have been concerned about my mom from the beginning. She isn't in the best health, but she insists on doing this. Granny has Dementia, so we are learning how to deal with that. I have noticed that my mom has started forgetting things. I'm not sure how serious it is just yet, but it does worry me.
Anyone else caring for the elderly? What have you noticed? What do you fight? How do you survive?
Today, like most Saturdays lately, Mom and I loaded Granny into the car to run errands, have lunch, and go to the store (i.e. Walmart). This not only gets Granny out of the house, but it allows Mom to get out and about with other people. You would think it would be a nice break, but the whole process of taking Granny anywhere is quite exhausting.
Each time we go to the store, Granny reminds me of a toddler shopping with his/her parents--looking at everything on the shelves, pointing to things she wants, asking over and over for items until she gets them or you leave, grabbing items from shelves when we roll her to close, and more. The worst is going down the bread aisle and passing all the Little Debbie sweets. She points and grabs all kinds of different sweets. She loves Donut Sticks, little donuts, and Honey Buns. The second worst is waiting in the check-out lane. She looks at all the candy, grabbing a few, and the various impulse items lining the waiting area.
Today, she was all about getting three different sizes of storage bags, Pop Tarts, lipstick, and a small bag. To you, this may not seem like a big deal, but Mom does everything at the house, so she knows what is needed and what isn't. Granny pretty much sits in her chair or in bed. Other than the puzzle in the daily paper, she doesn't do anything. Not that we haven't tried! I just find it funny what she insists on getting and how childlike she is going about it.
Besides this, she is all about the sweets. If at all possible, she would eat sweets all day long. She eats far more syrup on her waffles or pancakes than a family of 6 could eat in one sitting. She eats Donut Sticks, snack cakes, candy, and anything else sweet that you could imagine, and that is all she wants. Poor, Mom. She has to fight the sweets all day and make sure Granny eats all the food groups and gets enough protein. It is quite a fight. Just like when parents try to get their young children to eat appropriately.
I have been concerned about my mom from the beginning. She isn't in the best health, but she insists on doing this. Granny has Dementia, so we are learning how to deal with that. I have noticed that my mom has started forgetting things. I'm not sure how serious it is just yet, but it does worry me.
Anyone else caring for the elderly? What have you noticed? What do you fight? How do you survive?
Thursday, January 3, 2013
Caring for the Elderly
Have you been the caregiver for a senior citizen? If so, please share you thoughts, ideas, and ways of surviving.
My mother, the most amazing, strongest woman I know, has taken over the daily care of her mother, Granny. We had some wonderful ladies who stayed with her 24/7 for the last 9.5 months, but due to finances, Mom took over at Thanksgiving. You know it has to be an adjustment to do something like this, but I don't think anyone can really prepare themselves for what is involved. Mom has given up her whole life, and in order to check on both of them, my life has changed too.
Granny lived alone and still drove until May 2010. She was followed, attacked, and robbed. That very incident would impact anyone, but it was the beginning of the end of the lady we knew. Because she was so scared, even in her own home, she would be awake at all hours. One early September morning in 2010, she was moving through her house, fell, and broke her hip. After surgery and a hospital stay, she went to a rehab facility. She did great, and she was able to return to her home within 3 months. She continued to be scared, but she was determined to be on her own. By this point, she was no longer driving, and she was pretty much in her home full-time, afraid to leave b/c someone might break in. She would leave if a family member took her somewhere, but she was afraid until she returned home.
In September 2011, she developed a blood infection and a few other concerns, so back to the hospital she went. Again, a hospital stay led to rehab to get her up and moving. She didn't recover as well from this. Dementia began settling in. She seemed to enjoy the rehab facility, so we decided to leave her there in the nursing home portion. For the most part, she was happy, made friends, and seemed to be doing well. This was when things were going well, her mind was "right, and she was more herself. However, she also had another side. This side was angry and frustrated, and during this time, she would argue and argue about going home, accuse people of things, and more. Finally, in order for Mom to survive, we gave Granny a choice, knowing she wasn't always in her right mind. She could stay in the nursing home or she would go home with 24/7 care. Because of the Dementia, she totally believed she could care for herself and didn't know why someone had to be there full-time. This has been the argument and struggle for 10 months.
Through the caregivers, we have learned about "sun-downing" and Dementia, but it is still so hard to see Granny like this, see how she seems fine and herself one minute and the next she is a mean, selfish, ungrateful person we don't know. She talks to herself or to people who aren't there. She says things that she would never have said to Mom or in front of me.
Unless I keep a log of everything Granny says or does, no one can believe what this has been like, especially for Mom.
There has to be some sort of training for this. I am sure there are support systems, but how do you go about finding them or becoming a part? Caring for anyone, but especially a parent, is so stressful, which I have probably already said, and you don't get a lot of rest. It is exhausting.
Besides worrying about Mom and the toll this is taking on her and her health, this whole situation has started me thinking about when I become a senior citizen and have no one to care for me. I know it may sound like I'm being selfish, but . . . Will I be that sad little lady in the nursing home with no one visiting? Who will know when it is time for me to have full time help? Who will pay for it? What if I can't pay for it? Where do I go?
So . . . besides wondering about my future, this has also brought to my mind the need for families to start thinking, now, about the care of their parents and/or grandparents when time comes. So many people think that is something to worry about later, but I tell you, the time is now to start thinking and planning. Loved ones need to become educated on care-giving or caring for the elderly. I don't have all the answers, but I just know more has to be done to get the info out to loved ones.
My mother, the most amazing, strongest woman I know, has taken over the daily care of her mother, Granny. We had some wonderful ladies who stayed with her 24/7 for the last 9.5 months, but due to finances, Mom took over at Thanksgiving. You know it has to be an adjustment to do something like this, but I don't think anyone can really prepare themselves for what is involved. Mom has given up her whole life, and in order to check on both of them, my life has changed too.
Granny lived alone and still drove until May 2010. She was followed, attacked, and robbed. That very incident would impact anyone, but it was the beginning of the end of the lady we knew. Because she was so scared, even in her own home, she would be awake at all hours. One early September morning in 2010, she was moving through her house, fell, and broke her hip. After surgery and a hospital stay, she went to a rehab facility. She did great, and she was able to return to her home within 3 months. She continued to be scared, but she was determined to be on her own. By this point, she was no longer driving, and she was pretty much in her home full-time, afraid to leave b/c someone might break in. She would leave if a family member took her somewhere, but she was afraid until she returned home.
In September 2011, she developed a blood infection and a few other concerns, so back to the hospital she went. Again, a hospital stay led to rehab to get her up and moving. She didn't recover as well from this. Dementia began settling in. She seemed to enjoy the rehab facility, so we decided to leave her there in the nursing home portion. For the most part, she was happy, made friends, and seemed to be doing well. This was when things were going well, her mind was "right, and she was more herself. However, she also had another side. This side was angry and frustrated, and during this time, she would argue and argue about going home, accuse people of things, and more. Finally, in order for Mom to survive, we gave Granny a choice, knowing she wasn't always in her right mind. She could stay in the nursing home or she would go home with 24/7 care. Because of the Dementia, she totally believed she could care for herself and didn't know why someone had to be there full-time. This has been the argument and struggle for 10 months.
Through the caregivers, we have learned about "sun-downing" and Dementia, but it is still so hard to see Granny like this, see how she seems fine and herself one minute and the next she is a mean, selfish, ungrateful person we don't know. She talks to herself or to people who aren't there. She says things that she would never have said to Mom or in front of me.
Unless I keep a log of everything Granny says or does, no one can believe what this has been like, especially for Mom.
There has to be some sort of training for this. I am sure there are support systems, but how do you go about finding them or becoming a part? Caring for anyone, but especially a parent, is so stressful, which I have probably already said, and you don't get a lot of rest. It is exhausting.
Besides worrying about Mom and the toll this is taking on her and her health, this whole situation has started me thinking about when I become a senior citizen and have no one to care for me. I know it may sound like I'm being selfish, but . . . Will I be that sad little lady in the nursing home with no one visiting? Who will know when it is time for me to have full time help? Who will pay for it? What if I can't pay for it? Where do I go?
So . . . besides wondering about my future, this has also brought to my mind the need for families to start thinking, now, about the care of their parents and/or grandparents when time comes. So many people think that is something to worry about later, but I tell you, the time is now to start thinking and planning. Loved ones need to become educated on care-giving or caring for the elderly. I don't have all the answers, but I just know more has to be done to get the info out to loved ones.
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